| How
To Get The Most Out of Your
First Hypnosis Session
Calvin D. Banyan,
MA, BCH, CI
What can you do to make sure you get the most from you first hypnosis
session? This is a very good question, because it is an important
one for those seeking hypnosis or hypnotherapy services.
An entire book or at least a chapter could be written
on this topic. In this discussion I will narrow it down to two main
factors that contribute to you getting the most out of your first
hypnosis session.
The Hypnotherapist Should
Help You To Feel Comfortable About Doing Hypnosis By Telling You
All You Need To Know About Hypnosis
The first important factor determining your success is your choice
of hypnotherapist or hypnotherapy provider. Providing you have made
a good choice and your hypnotherapist is well trained (i.e., A Certified
Hypnotherapist), she will know how to help you to be prepared for
your first session by providing you a sufficient amount of information
about hypnosis, hypnotherapy, her experience and credentials, as
well as what to expect during the session, basically everything
that you need to find out to put you at ease.
For most people receiving this kind of information
is and important part of the process, because any experienced hypnotherapist
can tell you, proper preparation of clients prior to the hypnosis
session improves success. It improves success because preparing
a client for the session helps to reduce concerns about the hypnosis
process and set up an appropriate expectation of what to expect
the hypnotic experience to feel like. Any fear of being hypnotized
will always reduce the probability of success of any hypnosis session.
An individual who has a realistic expectation of what the experience
of being hypnotized will be like, will feel more comfortable and
satisfied with the experience, during and after the session.
What You Can Do To Get The
Most Out Of A Hypnosis Session
The next main factor that will contribute to the success in your
first hypnosis session of course is you, and how you mentally approach
the session. Presuming that your hypnotherapist has done her job
well as discussed above, and you have asked all the questions you
feel you need to ask, you should feel comfortable with experiencing
hypnosis.
Here is what you need to do, you need to adopt an
easy going accepting attitude for following instructions.
Almost all hypnotic inductions contain some suggestions
for relaxation. Even the instant and rapid inductions have some
kind of suggestion for relaxation. However, contrary to popular
opinion, physical relaxation is not required for hypnosis to occur.
It has become my opinion, after conducting thousands of hypnosis
sessions, as well as supervising and training hypnotherapists who
have conducted thousands more, that the physical relaxation
is only encouraged (through suggestion) so that a kind of mental
relaxation can occur. This mental relaxation is a major part
of what helps you to experience the benefits of hypnosis.
This mental relaxation is sometimes called “contention.”
This “contention” does not have anything to do with
conflict or tension. In fact it is quite the opposite. This “contention”
is a mental state where, it is as if the person in hypnosis is hanging
on the hypnotist’s every word. In the Dave Elman-type inductions,
there comes a point where the client is asked to relax her “mind
until the numbers fade away.” When the numbers have faded
away, as a result of relaxing the mind, we have guided our clients
into this highly relaxed state of mind, and as a result, they can
become highly suggestible, and be able to experience virtually every
kind of hypnotic phenomena, from catalepsy to hypnotically induced
anesthesia.
The hypnotist or hypnotherapist cannot relax your
mind. She is in the role of a coach or teacher. The hypnotic induction
is a way of helping you to first (generally), relax your body, and
then use that relaxation as a model for relaxing your mind and creating
the hypnotic state. When you follow the instructions of the hypnotherapist,
your conscious mind become less critical of the instructions and
suggestions given. Once this has been accomplished your hypnotherapist
can help you become successful for whatever you came in to see a
hypnotherapist for. So, it is essential that you do not, over analyze
the instructions. Analysis and mental criticism is the opposite
of the mental relaxation you want to create. Just as muscle tension
is the opposite of physical relaxation, mental work such as rationalization
and analysis is the opposite of mental relaxation.
Now we return to the idea of adopting an easy-going
accepting mental attitude. Analysis and criticism is equivalent
to mental work. If you are doing mental work, you are not relaxing
the mind and not relaxing the mind will inhibit you going as deeply
into hypnosis as you could otherwise. The deeper you allow yourself
to go into hypnosis, the more benefit you will receive from each
hypnosis session.
How I Helped To Make My
First Hypnosis Session Successful
Let me give you and example. Even though I learned how to do hypnosis
many years ago, it was only about 5 years ago when I decided that
it would be beneficial for me to have the experience of
being hypnotized by someone else. Up to that point, I was always
the hypnotist; I had never been the “subject.” So, I
contacted a hypnotherapist that I did know personally (I thought
that would put me more at ease), and arranged a session to work
on something that was important to me at the time.
As I sat waiting for my meeting with the hypnotherapist,
some anxiety (fear) started to set in. I was not afraid of hypnosis.
I was not afraid of the hypnotherapist; she came to me highly recommended
by someone that I highly trusted. I was afraid that I would
mess the whole thing up! I was afraid that I would be too analytical
and be too focused on how she was conducting the session to allow
the process of mental relaxation to occur. I was concerned that
I would not allow contention; that I would not be able to put aside
my analytical rational thinking long enough to experience what I
hoped to experience.
It was then that I sat down and had a little talk
with myself. It went something like this… “Okay,
do you really want to do this or not? This is going to cost $80.00.
Don’t go a head with this unless you are willing to follow
instructions. Only you can get in the way of having some success
here. So, what are you going to do? I know you are a trained scientist.
I know you are a little stubborn. I know you like to be in charge
and in control, but you can’t do that right now, that is not
how it works. It is going to cost you $80.00 no matter how it goes.”
Then it happened. I decided, that I was going to
be the best hypnotic subject that this hypnotist had ever seen!
It was just a decision. But it was just the decision that I needed
to make.
I had just decided that I was going to give her a
chance to do her work. I was going to allow her to be in charge
for a little while. I was going to follow her instructions and just
adopt an easy-going accepting attitude for what ever she suggested.
And, when I wasn’t sure of what to do or of what she was doing,
I was going to relax entirely and give her the benefit of the doubt!
Was I doing this for her sake? No. How well I did
in the hypnosis session was going to have very little effect on
her life (she was going to make $80. 00 regardless). I was there
because there was something that I wanted to accomplish, and the
only way I was going to be able to accomplish that was to follow
her instructions and to adopt that easy-going accepting mental attitude.
And, that is just what I did. I had a great hypnosis
session; which included a hypnotic age regression to when I was
so small I hadn’t even walked yet! It was a profound experience
and an important part of my education as a hypnotherapist.
So, what can you do to make the most of your upcoming
hypnosis session? Sit down and have a little talk with yourself,
and then decide to adopt that easy-going accepting mental attitude,
and to follow all of the instructions of your hypnotherapist without
rationalizing or analyzing, really let your mind relax like your
body can relax, and you will have done your part! Then you will
get the very most out of your hypnosis session. That is my advice.
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